Empty Praise

In her book America by Heart, Sarah Palin writes about the dangers of empty praise and the “self esteem” movement that has swept the nation by storm. Specifically, she points out how dangerous this is for children:

Sometimes I think we try too hard with kids these days to substitute this inner strength with empty praise. Everyone’s into building their kids’ self-esteem by telling them they’re all “winners,” assuring them that every scribbled picture is a work of art and every chaotic soccer game is a triumph. I understand the good intentions behind this, but I also worry that we’re not giving our kids a chance to discover what they’re made of. Kids know the difference between real praise and empty praise. When we don’t let them fail, when we tell them every average effort is superlative, we’re keeping them from discovering that hidden strength. We may think we’re helping them, but really we’re holding them back.

In fact, we may be creating a generation of entitled little whiners.

Palin goes on to discuss the effect that this kind of upbringing has on young people as they enter the work force (hint: it’s not good) and the dangers that result from parents protecting the egos of their children while denying them the opportunity to experience, and the understanding of the importance of, hard work.

As parents, it’s natural for us to want to protect our kids from the dog-eat-dog competition of life. But do we really have their best interests at heart when we shield their little egos, finish their science projects, and sell all their Girl Scout cookies for them?

I would argue, as Palin does, that we do not have their best interests at heart and that we are, in fact, damaging our children when we fail to be realistic with them. There are many important lessons to be learned from assuming responsibility and working hard…and accepting the consequences for mistakes or failure to follow through on something that we were responsible to do.

The ultimate example of a parent, of course, is our Heavenly Father, and it does not take a scholarly grasp of the Scriptures to understand that God does not promise smooth sailing and a life free of disappointments to His children. On the contrary, He promises that life will have its share of challenges, trials, difficulties and even persecution. God uses these things to work His will in our lives, to shape us into the people that He wants us to be and to equip us for the future He has for us.

If the God of the universe, who could literally eliminate all obstacles in our lives and shield us from any heartache or disappointment has not only declined to do so but in fact promised just the opposite, can we really think we are being effective, God-honoring parents if we attempt to do so for our children?

Of course parents need to protect their children from unnecessary hardship and unfair treatment, but parents also need to let their children accept responsibility for their own actions and even, on occasion, go through the effort involved in working through their own problems. Parents should not do homework for their children, but they should be available to help their children if necessary. And if the homework does not get turned in, parents should support whatever consequences occur as a result, not try to excuse away the problem and facilitate the avoidance of consequences. If a child violates a school rule–from chewing gum to cheating on a test–the parents should support the consequences that result, whether a verbal reprimand, an after-school detention, or a zero on the test. The worst thing a parent could do is attack the school, verbally undermine the teacher or the school leadership, and be heard by their children making excuses for why their child wasn’t really cheating, or didn’t really mean it or know what he was doing if he did. Parents should defend their children to the nth degree, should support them to the utmost, encourage them early and often, and should be there for them regardless of what happens…but they should not, ever, under any circumstances, be the instrument of empty praise or the agent of avoidance for the justifiable and deserved consequences of actions (or inactions) of their children.

Purely Secular Subjects?

Earlier this month the U.S. Supreme Court heard arguments in “Hosanna-Tabor Evangelical Lutheran Church and School v. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, Et Al.” This case involves religious school employment and the matter of a ministerial exception, who is covered by it, and so on. While the decision issued by the Court will potentially have implications for Christian schools, the case itself is not what I am interested in writing about today. Rather, I am interested in some of the discussion during the oral arguments.

In the process of questioning one of the attorneys, Chief Justice John Roberts asked a question that began this way: “Well, let’s say it’s a teacher who teaches only purely secular subjects….” Now, I am not going to criticize the Chief Justice. My understanding is that he is a devout Catholic, and I suspect that on a personal level he may agree with me when I say that my contention is that there is no such thing as a “purely secular subject.” Mr. Roberts was involved in the process of parsing intricate legal arguments in an effort to determine whether or not someone who is a minister is or is not entitled to certain protections or statuses under the law when his or her primary job responsibilities to do not involve matters of a specifically-ministerial nature. And as I said, that issue is beyond the scope of what I am interested in for the purposes of this discussion (and, I suspect, beyond the scope of what you are interested in reading about!)

What does interest me is this idea of “purely secular subjects.” It is a position held by many, whether professing Atheists, professing Christians, or professing adherents of any number of religions. Unfortunately, it is a position held by many churches and Christian schools, too. There are far too many “Christian” schools that start the day (or even each class) with prayer, include a chapel service for students and probably a Bible class, but go about the rest of their academic instruction and curriculum development as if English, math, history, science, physical education, art and music are “purely secular subjects.” There are some Christian textbook publishers who seem to hold to this position, as well. Their books contain no recognizable difference from those written by secular publishers and used by public schools or, at most, have an occasional Bible verse printed along the bottom of a workbook page.

The reality is, there is no such thing as a secular subject. The dictionary (dictionary.com) defines secular as “of or pertaining to worldly things or to things that are not regarded as religious, spiritual, or sacred; temporal.” The definition even includes a specific reference to schools and education and says that secular means “concerned with nonreligious subjects.” Someone who is a follower of Christ, someone with a biblical worldview, will reject the argument that there can be any subject that is purely temporal and unconnected to God. The fact that a specific area of study may be pertaining to “worldly things,” by which the definition means things that are of this world and in this world, does not mean that said subject is completely disconnected from things that are not temporal or “of this world.”

Colossians 2:8 says “See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ” (ESV). If we allow ourselves to be sucked into the argument that there are subject areas that are “purely secular” we are throwing open the door to the influences of empty deceit and worldly philosophy in accordance with human tradition. When we do that we are allowing ourselves to be pressed into the mold of the world. Paul, however, instructs believers this way: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2, ESV). We can only transform our minds by approaching every subject from a scriptural position, interpreting all subject matter and academic instruction through the lens of God’s truth. Whether we’re talking about reading a piece of literature, evaluating a painting, or studying the events of history, there simply is no such thing as a purely secular subject. You either recognize God’s presence and involvement or you deny it. Either way, though, it’s “religious.”

Close-mindedness

One of the leading academics in the United States is Stanley Fish, who also writes an online column for the New York Times. In a recent interview Mr. Fish stated that he believes that no one can operate without faith, which he defines as “not specifically religious but as a set of assumptions which structure your consciousness and allow you to see what it is that you see, then you realize that it is impossible not to have your consciousness structured by a set of assumptions.” That is a bit hard to follow at first reading, but Fish goes on to elaborate as follows: “This is another way of saying that there’s no such thing as an open mind, and that’s a good thing. If you had an open mind, a mind not structured by presuppositions, it would have the characteristics of a sieve. Everything would just fall right through it. So I am an advocate of close-mindedness.”

Fish is right, of course; no one has a completely open mind, because we all have beliefs, convictions, ideas and preferences that frame our view of the world and how we perceive what goes on around us. That is the very definition of a worldview. The important thing is what shapes and influences and informs our worldview. Fish does not go so far as to specify what he believes that should be, and in fact declined when asked to describe his own faith. I will not be so timid, however. I believe, and unashamedly so, that one’s worldview must be informed by the Scriptures. Anything other than that will result in a flawed and necessarily self-centered worldview.

Why necessarily self-centered? Because if one’s worldview is not shaped by Scripture, and the conviction that there is one true God (and only one!) and that He created the universe and everything in it, then there are no absolutes and there is no higher power. Perhaps you have heard some people say that the only absolute is that there are no absolutes? Besides being self-contradicting that is one of the most ridiculous positions anyone could take (and if you would like to explore that discussion sometime, just let me know…I’d be happy to spend as much time as you like talking about that!) But anyone who tries to live their life by such a belief will necessarily pick and choose which things he or she believes and holds to based on what is most appealing, reasonable, convenient, and/or important to him or her. The most important part of that sentence, though, is the last four words: “to him or her.” When absolute truth is abandoned and everything becomes subjective, it necessarily becomes self-centered. I don’t mean to sound harsh or judgmental, there is simply no other basis on which someone will make a decision or establish a belief.

If you doubt that, try asking someone who does not have a biblical worldview or hold to absolute truth why he or she believes something. Anything…it really doesn’t matter. Just ask someone who fits that description why they believe as they do or practice what they do or live the way they do and the answer will almost certainly start with, “Because I…”. Whatever comes next is irrelevant; the point has been made. The filter, the basis, the foundation, the starting point will always be “I.”

When one acknowledges God and acknowledges that He is supreme and sovereign there is no longer an “I” in the picture. Someone who has a biblical worldview and answers the question posed in the previous paragraph will answer “because God…” or “because the Bible….” If “I” is in the answer at all it will likely be to say “because I believe the Bible.”

So next time someone tells you that you need to have an open mind, tell them “no thanks” and seize the opportunity to explain to them that they don’t have an open mind either. It’s simply a matter of what our close-mindedness is based on.

Conference Time

Last Friday was parent-teacher conferences at school.

As I was thinking about the conferences I got to thinking about what it would be like if God summoned us for a conference to review our progress. What if when we got home today we found a letter from the Almighty, informing us that we were to report for a face-to-face meeting in heaven’s conference room next Tuesday afternoon so that we could discuss with the Lord how well we have been doing (or not doing!) in our Christian walk.

What would we hear at such a meeting? Would there be things that the Lord could point to that we are doing well? I would hope so. Would there be some areas where we have made real improvement? Again, I would certainly hope so. Would there also be some areas where we are struggling? Areas where we are not doing well at all? In fact, some areas where, by all accounts, we just do not even seem to care whether we are doing what we are supposed to or not? I am afraid that the answer is yes. I know it is for me, and if you are honest with yourself I am sure that the answer is yes for you, too.

One of the points of parent-teacher conferences is for parents, and students, to find out where improvement needs to be made. The conference really only has any meaning, though, if the areas identified as needing improvement are addressed and the parents and their students take steps to insure that improvement is made before the next grade report. Few things are more frustrating for teachers than students (and/or their parents) who seem to pay no heed to the warnings and guidance offered during conferences.

More than likely neither you nor I will get that summons to a heavenly conference. Truth be told, though, we have the opportunity for such conferences every day. The book of James tells us that the Word of God is like a mirror. James also says that we are to be doers of the Word and not hearers only. When we read the Word, or hear it taught, we will, I trust, be reminded of areas where we are doing well in our Christian walk. But we will also most certainly have revealed to use areas where we need to improve. When we ignore the need to improve in those areas, James says, we are like someone looking at himself in the mirror and then going on his way, not bothering to address the flaws that the mirror revealed. Put another way, we are like someone who attended a parent-teacher conference and paid no attention to the areas identified as needing improvement.

Simply Not Enough

In the April 2011 issue of Tabletalk magazine from Ligonier Ministries (www.ligonier.org) there is an interview with R. Albert Mohler, Jr., the president of The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary.  In the interview Dr. Mohler is asked about what the church can do to better prepare its members to meet the cultural challenges of the 21st century.  His answer is excellent, and is just as applicable to the Christian school as to the church.

“For far too long, evangelical churches have simply assumed that it is our task to give our church members a basic level of biblical knowledge, to create opportunities for Christian fellowship, and to encourage parents in the Christian nurture of their children.  But what we have failed to understand is that Christians in the twenty-first century are being thrown into a world in which just a little bit of Bible knowledge is simply not going to be enough.  Simply having positive fellowship and nurturing experiences in the church and in the Christian family will not be enough.  The church must prepare people to be able to think Christianly in a world where the intellectual rules have fundamentally changed.  They are going to have to learn to be faithful in terms of every-day decision making, in terms of profound moral questioning, and in terms of political, economic, and cultural issues.  It is not that the church needs to be constantly talking about the culture; rather, it is that with the cultural challenge around us, we need to talk more and more about the Bible and coming to a deeper understanding of the Scriptures.  The church must equip its members to be deeply biblical so that the theological mode of thinking is something that comes naturally to believers.  Such Christians will be saturated with biblical truth, sustained by the life of the congregation, and encouraged into faithfulness by the communion of the saints.”

What Dr. Mohler describes is exactly what effective Christian educators and Christian schools seek to instill in each of their students.  A biblical worldview is the ability to think Christianly–it is the lens or the filter through which we see and understand everything around us.  Some Christian schools (and some churches) are content to sprinkle their classes (or their services) with a few Bible verses here and there, probably a prayer, and then to spend the rest of their time trying to act like, look like, and be attractive to the world.  The Bible makes it very clear that we are not to be of the world.  A deeper understanding of Scriptures is exactly what is needed if we are to make an impact for Christ.

At Sunshine Bible Academy, and at other Christian schools faithful to God’s design for education, every subject is presented with a biblical worldview.  We do not hide from or ignore the realities of the world around us, but we ensure that our students understand what is taking place in the world by understanding how it fits into God’s plan and/or is a result of man’s fallen nature.  Every subject is interconnected–to each other, and to the Bible.  Yes, there is a Bible class that each student takes, but biblical instruction is not restricted to that class.  When  instructors teach math, science, history, literature, music, physical education and art they do so with a biblical worldview.  Students learn to see the orderliness of God in math, the power, wonder and majesty of God in His creation, the importance of good health in maintaining our bodies for the Lord’s service in physical education, and so on.

Education from a biblical worldview equips students to meet the challenges of the 21st century, both academically and biblically.

The First One

Greetings!

I am excited to welcome you to my blog!  This will be a place where you can engage with me in an ongoing discussion  about  Christian education, biblical worldview, contemporary events, and more.

This is not my first attempt at blogging, though blogging is something that I never thought I would do.  I first started blogging during my tenure as Executive Director of a children’s home in Virginia.  When we redesigned our web site, our Director of Communications, Krista Back–who is also my friend and an accomplished blogger herself–encouraged me to start blogging through our site.  She said it would increase traffic to the site and help to keep the content relevant.  Whether or not that happened I don’t know, but I found that I did enjoy blogging on occasion.

To be honest, the concept of blogging is a bit overwhelming.  Even though I am relatively young and generally knowledgeable about trends in technology, it still amazes me to think that I can sit at my computer and type out my thoughts on any subject and share them with the entire world.  I’m not sure if that is exhilarating or intimidating.  Probably a little bit of both….

I will not drone on right now and turn this into a lengthy introductory blog, but I will just say this in closing: I have no shortage of opinions and beliefs, and I will do my best to articulate them in clear and unoffensive language while providing the basis for my position.  I invite your interaction in this discussion through your comments and questions, but I ask that you adhere to those same general principles–be polite, and have a basis for what you’re saying.

Let the conversation begin…